As submissives, we strive to make our dominants proud. And when issues arise and we are feeling our most helpless, we somestimes search the very depths of our souls to find a solution. And sometimes, we find something we think is top notch. We toss it over in our heads as we're on the way to tell our Dominant. Or, perhaps we find a weakness in ourselves. We find a flaw and we realize it is something that needs to be addressed. So, instead of doing what would be most natural for any of us that are human...we take it to our Dom. We let them know what we discover...even at the risk of punishment or god forbid, ridicule. It's part of the dynamic right? To be open and honest, even in the face of fear.
But what happens when you lay whatever it is out on the line? What happens when you are feeling so very vulnerable and nothing? In the first case scenerio, we're proud of ourselves. We realize our idea may not get used and we prepare ourselves for that. In the second scenario, we've prostrated ourselves to be completely open. Sure, it could be a trait that requires punishment for down the road but right there and then?
Maybe I am wrong in my thinking. I've been wrong before. Maybe it's my naivity. But even outside of the D/s dynamic, words of encouragement, praise or acknowledgement are so very important. TTWD is about growth. How can we grow if we aren't told what we do is right? How can we grow without support from the one person who matters most? In all situations, it takes two to make things work right? So...how exactly do we make it work if we're working on it but no words come.
From personal experience, it hurts when no words come or even worse...you get a reply of indifference. God forbid the issue be insecurity of self or whatever that you discover. When nothing comes, that tends to just dig you deeper in your hole...because it took a lot to admit a fault in the first place, especially to admit you are having self acceptance issues.
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